Anger becomes an issue when it gets out of control, causing problems in relationships, at work or simply in the way it affects your quality of life. Working with a therapist will help you to control anger.
“When anger strikes it feels like I’ve been been engulfed by a tsunami of uncontrollable emotion.”
If you have a problem with managing your anger you will probably recognise some of the common symptoms below:
Common symptoms include:
- Aggressive or violent behaviour towards others
- You act in ways which are frightening or wild
- Many people seem to frequently respond in an aggressive way towards you.
- You find difficulty in your personal relationships at home or work
- “Attitude” issues
“Anger is a wind which blows out the lamp of the mind. ” Robert Green Ingersoll
There are a number of treatments that can be effective. We use an integrative approach to treatment which means that we match the intervention to you. Research shows that talking therapies such as counselling are very effective particularly if cognitive behavioural (CBT) techniques are used.
How can Anger Management Therapy Help?
This is quite simply a smart move to make. Why? Because together we develop you, helping you to adapt your thinking, and doing which you then use to react differently to the situations which trigger your anger, aggressive behaviour or violence. We help you by building up your strengths and empowering you to fix this. Sorting this out leads you on to better relationships and simply a better quality of life.
But what if your your frustrations are more complex -- perhaps based upon some difficult times when you were growing up? There too we can help as we have therapists who will be able to help you to resolve any underlying issues that you may have.
In short therapy helps you to:
- Manage your reactions to trigger people or situations
- Use strategies to combat your low moods
- Explore your thoughts, feelings and behaviours which contribute to your anger.
- Learn the techniques that work for you in the long-term.
Improve your communication skills which can positively affect anger management and other aspects of your life.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha
It is also worth considering cardio-vascular exercise (Think rhythmic exercise e.g. jogging, swimming) if you like this as it has been found to be particularly helpful in managing stress and hence anger. There is also a great deal of information available online and we have included some links for you below.
What is the Next Step?
At Reflexions Counselling and Psychotherapy we will help you to identify and then put in place techniques that you can use to manage your anger… Contact us and we will take it from there. Its very straight forward, just give us a call, mail or text:
Or phone: 0191 5805080
Resources and Reading for Anger Management:
National Charity for all things mental health with a section on controlling anger.
BAAM (British Association of Anger Management)
tel. 0845 1300 286
A useful site for carers and those that have to deal with someone else’s anger. Contains lots of useful information.
helpline: 020 7263 8884
Counselling aimed at men who want to stop their violent behaviour.
PO Box 1596, Ilford, Essex IG1 3FW
helpline: 01708 765 200
A helpline including domestic violence and sexual assault, bullying, child abuse, anxiety and depression.
helpline: 0808 2000 247
National charitable organisation about domestic violence.